The Wedding Pressure

Edward and I are getting married in 56 days. Can you believe it? We've been dating forever and now that we're getting married soon it seems almost surreal. I'm definitely grateful for the past but looking forward to our future together.

Last Wednesday Edward and I had our engagement shoot, and I was thinking about how stressed out and anxious about it we were. I believe we're relatively positive people (or we try to be) and I really don't like being anxious about anything, but it came out of this crazy pressure and desire for everything to go perfectly. We kept talking about how we'll look at these photos for the rest of our lives (like we'd never ever take couple photos together again or something), and how our kids one day will see us. We wanted our outfits to be perfect, our bodies, our faces, everything to be so perfect in the end I think it made me go a little insane.

We got a taste of a couple of the photos we had received and even though there are some amazing shots in there, there are also a couple of photos I wish had gone a little bit better. Like, I wish my arm wasn't placed like that, that I lifted my chin a bit (to get rid of that ugly double chin), or that I had worked out more and lost more weight. The list could go on, and it was the same for Edward. Instead of being happy and grateful that we have some amazing photos to cherish, we focused on the bad shots and criticized every lump and bump.

It's the same with our wedding. We want our wedding to go so perfectly that it hurts. We've been waiting this day forever, and we just want everything to go well. We want our guests to enjoy themselves, we want to make lasting memories, and look back at gorgeous photos. I mean who wouldn't want that? I feel like somewhere along the road I got lost in this need for perfection. I don't know if society is to blame for this extravagant wedding trend, but after looking around on Pinterest for a couple of minutes I immediately and subconsciously start to question my own wedding choices and start getting anxiety about the whole thing.

I feel like it's human to want things to go perfectly and to have that "dream" wedding, but I definitely need a wake up call from it all. I don't want to be anxious and stressed out at all about this wedding, and I want to be laid back about it all. I'll do my best to make it an amazing wedding but if things don't fall into place and it isn't exactly how I "pictured" it to be (thanks Disney), then I need to learn how to make my peace with it all.

There's a life lesson in all of this for me. J. Cole in his song Love Yourz (which ironically is a song that came on my spotify playlist this morning), says that "there's no such thing as a life that's better than yours." Thanks J.Cole! The message is loud and clear...be grateful Mariah for everything. Stop comparing yourself and your engagement & wedding to those Pinterest ones. Your wedding will be great and Edward and you will have an amazing time and make amazing memories. There will always be a "better" wedding or there will always be the "could of" and "should've" moments...but whatever. It will all be ok.. Stay positive. Stay happy.

There is so much to be grateful for and happy about. Edward and you are together and you guys love each other. That's all you need to make a wedding beautiful. 





lol.... writing is my therapy and I love writing myself into a good mood.