Response

I once read a quote online that says, "You can't always control what happens, but you can control how you react." I'm not too sure who said it, but I know it's a quote that has resonated with me ever since.

There's a lot of things in this crazy world that can bother you. It be a certain crappy situation or even when somebody does or says something that hurts you. I've realized that you can look at all these negatives and be grumpy and angry about it for the rest of your life, or reframe, think differently and stay positive. I want to be the kind of person who chooses the latter every time.

Something I've also realized that is so important when we respond to people especially, is to always think the best and see the best in people. I remember getting into arguments with friends/family/the fiancé, and seeing that I could of either avoided them or softened the blow of them significantly if I just saw the best in people every time. It's so easy to say, "that person doesn't care about me because they're constantly late" and thus get upset because your feelings were hurt, when in actuality them being late has absolutely nothing to do with you. They love you and they care about you, they just seriously have issues with their tardiness and don't have any intention of hurting you. This is a weird example, but you know what I mean. Don't always assume the worst when somebody hurts you.

Think the best, see the best and understand people. It would go a long way. 

It's happened to me... when I was tired or angry at someone else and I've snapped at people. I didn't have any intention of hurting you, but I did. It happens, I fail. Not one of us is perfect. We will all eventually fail, hurt one another, mess up... but let's just love and forgive one another. See the best in one another. Instead of saying "that person is poison, she's no good...I don't want to be her friend anymore." Be humble enough to say... you know what... I'm not going to respond with hate... I know that person is not evil, I've seen the good in her...I choose to forgive and love her.

There is always another way to respond, so choose love every time.